Finding Balance in Your Life as a Midlife Mom

Last Updated on May 16, 2023 by Erin

Juggling family, career, and personal life can feel like a three-ring circus for many midlife moms, but fear not. In this blog post, I’m sharing tips for the elusive art of finding balance in your life (and what to do when you’re absolutely drowning).

Midlife is that magical time where we find ourselves gracefully straddling the line between youthful exuberance and well-earned wisdom. I have personally found it to be a great time of rediscovery and positive change.

But let’s be real—it’s also a time when the juggling act becomes a bit trickier, with family, career, and personal life all vying for our attention.

Let’s explore the art of finding balance during this exciting chapter of our lives, and work on mastering the midlife juggle.

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The Importance of Finding Balance in Your Life

Midlife is a stage where physical, emotional, and mental well-being take center stage. When we neglect one area of our lives while focusing excessively on another, we risk compromising our overall well-being. Burnout and chronic health conditions are serious risks at this stage of the game.

Our relationships with family and friends are vital sources of support and happiness. Finding balance allows us to invest time and energy in nurturing these connections. We want to keep these relationships intact amidst the demands of work and other responsibilities.

By embracing balance, we can also inspire our children to create a well-rounded life for themselves.

Understanding the Challenges of Midlife

Midlife moms are the ultimate multi-taskers.

Oh, the joys of family life! From raising kids to supporting aging parents, midlife often finds us smack dab in the middle of family responsibilities. We become expert schedulers, shuttling kids to school, extracurricular activities, and playdates while ensuring we’re there for those important family moments. Plus, let’s not forget the never-ending to-do list of household chores and errands. It’s a whirlwind of love, chaos, and laundry, all rolled into one.

Then there’s work- a place where we spend a good chunk of our waking hours. We may find ourselves striving for promotions, taking on more responsibilities, or even contemplating career changes. Balancing the demands of our jobs, meeting deadlines, attending meetings, and staying on top of the ever-changing work landscape can sometimes feel like a tightrope act.

Amidst the family and career buzz, let’s not forget the importance of our personal lives. Midlife is a time when we yearn for self-care, personal growth, and moments of pure bliss. But finding time for ourselves can feel next to impossible.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve felt the struggle of succeeding in one aspect of your life and yet totally failing in another. Why can’t it all be good, all the time?!

While the challenges of midlife may seem overwhelming at times, it’s essential to acknowledge and address them head-on. Ignoring only leads to further imbalance.

Instead, let’s find ways to overcome these hurdles to achieve the much-coveted balance we seek.

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Prioritizing Self-Care and Well-being

Self-care provides that precious opportunity to hit the pause button, take a deep breath, and refuel our energy tanks. Sometimes it feels selfish. Other times it feels like just another thing to try and squeeze into the schedule. Regardless of how it feels to us, it’s crucial for our well-being.

You’ve probably heard others compare self-care to the safety announcement they make on planes about putting on your oxygen mask before assisting others. It’s a cliche, but a great analogy. Self-care is your oxygen mask in the midlife chaos.

By prioritizing your own well-being, you’re better equipped to take care of those around you

Self-care practices for midlife moms

Self-care is all about honoring your own unique needs. Whatever you need may not be the same thing your midlife mom friend needs.

Honor the things you need and dance to the beat of your own drum.

If you need a little inspiration, here are some self-care ideas you can consider:

• Mom’s Time-Out: Give yourself permission to take a “mom’s time-out” whenever you need it. Find a quiet corner of your home, grab a cup of tea or coffee, and just breathe. Use this time to disconnect from the chaos, recharge, and collect your thoughts.
  
• Girls’ Night (or Day) Out: Gather your fellow mom friends and plan a girls’ night out (or day out) filled with laughter, good food, and meaningful conversations. Whether it’s a fancy dinner, a movie night, or a fun outing, spending quality time with friends who understand the joys and challenges of midlife motherhood is a wonderful form of self-care.
  
• Nurturing Hobbies and Interests: Rediscover or pursue hobbies and interests that bring you pure delight. Whether it’s painting, gardening, writing, dancing, or any other passion, dedicating time to your creative outlets can be a source of immense joy and personal fulfillment.
  
• Mini Meditations: Try practicing mindfulness and meditation by spending a few minutes connecting with your thoughts and breath. Do it all at once, or in snippets throughout the day. The Headspace app is the easiest way to get started.
  

Practical tips for incorporating self-care into a busy midlife routine

• Treat self-care as a non-negotiable appointment with yourself. Block off dedicated time in your schedule, whether it’s 15 minutes or an hour, and stick to it. Treat it as you would any other important commitment and prioritize it accordingly.
  
• Recognize that self-care doesn’t always have to be time-consuming. Identify quick activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as listening to uplifting music, taking a short walk, doing a mindfulness exercise, or engaging in deep breathing.
  
• Consider adjusting your sleep routine to carve out extra time for self-care. Waking up earlier or going to bed a bit later can provide precious moments of solitude and self-care.
  
• Don’t hesitate to delegate and share responsibilities with your partner, family members, or trusted support network. By sharing the load, you create more time for yourself.
  
• Look for opportunities to combine self-care with your existing daily activities. For example, listen to a podcast or uplifting audiobook while commuting or doing household chores.
  
• Learn to set boundaries and say “no” to commitments that don’t align with your well-being or values. Understand that it’s okay to prioritize yourself and your self-care needs.
  
• Bring mindfulness to your self-care routine by being fully present in the activities you engage in. Whether it’s taking a bath, enjoying a meal, or spending time with loved ones, immerse yourself in the experience and savor each moment.
  
• Embrace flexibility and adaptability when it comes to self-care. Life can be unpredictable, and plans may change. Instead of becoming discouraged, find alternative ways to incorporate self-care into your routine.
  

Nurturing Relationships and Family Life

In the whirlwind of midlife, it’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of daily life and lose sight of the importance of nurturing our relationships with loved ones. However, maintaining strong connections with those who matter most is vital for our well-being and overall sense of fulfillment. Here’s why:

• Emotional Support: Our loved ones are our pillars of strength, providing us with comfort, understanding, and a safe space to express ourselves. Strong connections with family, friends, and partners offer a support system that can help us navigate the challenges of midlife.
  
• Shared Joy and Celebrations: Life’s joys are best when shared with loved ones. Sharing laughter, creating memories, and celebrating each other’s successes amplifies the joy and adds meaning to our lives.
  
• Unconditional Love and Acceptance: Having those connections reminds us that we are valued for who we are, flaws and all. It’s a reminder that we don’t have to face midlife alone, and that our loved ones accept us wholeheartedly.
  
• Joyful Connections: The connections we have with loved ones bring joy and meaningful conversations. Engaging in genuine conversations and connecting on a deeper level nourishes our souls.
  

One of the GIGANTIC reasons I decided to leave my full-time job just before I turned 40, was because I realized all of my mental energy was going to my career, whether I wanted it to or not. Meanwhile, time with my children was flying right past me.

I knew I didn’t want my children to look back and remember me as a tired and stressed mom. I’m attempting to now design a life that includes a part-time career, pursuit of personal interests, and the ability to care for them the best I can.

Strategies for balancing family responsibilities with personal and career goals

Set Priorities

Clarify your priorities by identifying what truly matters to you. Reflect on your personal and career goals and determine the core values that guide your decision-making. This clarity will help you allocate your time, energy, and resources accordingly.

A vision board is a fun and creative way to visualize your goals and priorities.

Communicate and Collaborate

Effective communication is key to maintaining a healthy balance. Engage in open and honest conversations with your family, partner, and colleagues about your responsibilities, commitments, and aspirations.

The Fair Play deck of cards is a great way to start those conversations and make sure responsibilities are evenly distributed.